Lost Friends

If we are friends today, would we still be friends in future?

Would we still have endless topics to talk about? Or we might just fall into the silent trap?

Would you still lend me a helping hand when I'm in trouble, or would you prefer to forget me as a friend?

These were some of the questions that I was pondering since reading KH's blog about his TIP programme. Indeed, many people look forward to a friendship that would last forever, but nobody can tell whether every relationship would be that kind right from the beginning. Whenever friends are forced to part, there'll always be people who would be emotionally overwhelmed. Some people can get over such emotions very quickly, but some would take a very long time. Nobody likes to part with a dear friend, but unfortunately, such a situation is a fact of life.

A lasting friendship is not one which requires you to chat with him whenever you see him online, neither is it one which makes you feel pressurised and uneasy. Perhaps a true friend is one which can endure the longest silence - a friendship that transcends beyond words and actions. Even when the two of you are physically thousand miles apart, your hearts would still be close to each other, as each of you would still remember, deep in your heart, that you would always be my friend. Perhaps that is the kind of friendship that can withstand the challenge of time, and the kind that many are looking for.

Of course, it is good to have common hobbies, common topics to talk about, knowing a little of each other's secret, etc. It all adds to the bond. But nothing is compulsory. A friend is worth having not because he likes to talk to you, but because he would be the one offering you a helping hand when you are in trouble, he would be the one who would remain as your companion, regardless of how poor, how miserable you might end up to be.

Treasure all your friendships you have now, cherish everyone you know. Even though some might eventually leave you, but you will always remember deep in your heart, that they would forever be your friends.